Dear Queenie,
My husband died last year and recently I met a man whose wife died a couple of years ago. We have fallen in love and I like to think we could have a future together.
So, Queenie, why do I feel like I’m cheating on my deceased husband?—Worried widow
Dear Widow,
Apparently you have not completely gotten over your late husband’s death. However, you must remember that marriage vows bind you only “until death do you part,” so even though you may still be in mourning, it is not cheating to have feelings for a living person.
Talk it over with your new love interest. If he also lost a beloved spouse, he should understand your feelings and probably has gone through something similar himself.
You both have every right to live “happily ever after” the second time around.
Dear Queenie,
My teenage daughter’s best friend has 2 profiles on Facebook. One is a perfectly normal one that she uses for people like me that she wants to impress with how nice she is. But I happened to discover that she has another one that you could only call “X-rated.” In fact, in my opinion it is “XXX-rated” and if she were my daughter she would be in big, big trouble!
Queenie, should I tell her parents?—Computer literate mother
Dear Queenie,
I’m a tall woman, almost 5 feet 11 inches, and my brother-in-law always calls me “Gargantua.” I’m not overweight, according to my doctor, and I find this insulting. I told him so, but he still does it.
Queenie, how do I get him to stop?—Tall, not fat
Dear Queenie,
My granddaughter is going on 5 and still sucks on a pacifier all the time and her mother won’t take the trouble to get her to give it up. Aside from the fact that it’s just plain disgusting, I’m afraid it will spoil her teeth and maybe make her more likely to catch infections, but I can’t convince her mother of the dangers.
Queenie, how do I convince her?—Worried Grampa
Dear Queenie,
There is one man who works at a well-known business on the island who works with girls from other countries and constantly tries to have a relationship with them. Usually he succeeds.
Acting like a serious boyfriend, when the girl falls in love with him and of course she wants to stay with him on the island (because of him, not the island), he always refuses her by saying he can’t afford her to stay by him, he doesn’t have enough money (he’s got upper standard salary though) and that she can’t stay on the island even if they marry.
It also happened several times that a girl got pregnant with him and he told her to take it out as he can’t support her. He’s been doing these things for many years already.
On the other hand, he is trying to be a good son in front of his beloved mother and his family who think he is a great man (he’s not married, lives alone, only one child).
When I was on the island I wanted to visit his mother to let her know about him and now when off the island I wanted to write a letter to her but I think she wouldn’t get to read it as he can stop the letter as he lives next to her and she doesn’t see so well anymore.
Queenie, what is there to be done in this case to stop him?—Too much
