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Dear Queenie,

  My husband died about 10 years ago and now I am engaged to be married again. I am inviting all my friends and family to the wedding.

  I was always close to my late husband’s family, but having them there would remind me of him and kind of spoil the occasion.

  Queenie, do I have to invite them?—Widowed fiancée  


Dear Fiancée,

  If you are still close to your late husband’s family, they might be hurt if you do not invite them. On the other hand, the occasion might make them sad, so they might not want to come or would not enjoy themselves if they did.

  You might talk it over with some of them and see how they feel about watching you get married to someone else. Or you could just send them an announcement, and explain to them later why they were not invited.

Queenie 20110520 fax OK BW