Dear Queenie,
I have been going with a wonderful man who has asked me to marry him and I have said yes. My problem is that I have done some things in the past that I am not proud of and I’m afraid to tell him because he might change his mind about marrying me.
But if I don’t tell him, he might find out anyway and change his mind.
Queenie, what should I do?—Hiding my past
Dear Hiding my past,
As I have said so many times before, this is a small island and secrets, especially unpleasant ones, cannot be kept for long.
Tell him the truth as soon as possible. Explain that you did not tell him before because you were afraid of losing him.
The longer you go without telling him, the more deceived he will feel when he finally finds out. I cannot say he will not change his mind about marrying you when he learns the truth, but he is less likely to do so if he knows you are being honest with him. Hope for the best, but prepare yourself for the worst.
