Dear Queenie,

I always send all my grandchildren gifts on special occasions. My daughter's children always thank me nicely for every gift, either by calling me or sending me a thank-you note, but my son's children don't.

My children were raised properly and I always made sure they showed gratitude for every gift the received, but my son isn't doing right by his children and I'm starting to think why should I bother to send them anything if they can't be bothered to say "thank you."

Queenie, should I stop sending gifts altogether or should I maybe make donations to worthy causes in their names instead?—Offended grandmother

Dear Queenie,

My wife’s grandmother’s husband used to molest her when she was little. She told her mother about it but nobody believed her.

Now we have children of our own we don’t want this man anywhere near them but we are afraid if we explain why it will cause hard feelings and maybe still nobody will believe the reason why.

Queenie, what to do?—Protective father

Dear Queenie,

I always send all my grandchildren gifts on special occasions. My daughter's children always thank me nicely for every gift, either by calling me or sending me a thank-you note, but my son's children don't.

My children were raised properly and I always made sure they showed gratitude for every gift the received, but my son isn't doing right by his children and I'm starting to think why should I bother to send them anything if they can't be bothered to say "thank you."

Queenie, should I stop sending gifts altogether or should I maybe make donations to worthy causes in their names instead?—Offended grandmother

Dear Queenie,

My wife’s grandmother’s husband used to molest her when she was little. She told her mother about it but nobody believed her.

Now we have children of our own we don’t want this man anywhere near them but we are afraid if we explain why it will cause hard feelings and maybe still nobody will believe the reason why.

Queenie, what to do?—Protective father