Dear Queenie,
My son had a big argument with one of his sisters and since then he has cut himself off from the entire family, including me. That means I never get to see his children, my grandchildren anymore.
Queenie, how can I fix things?—Worried grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
I have to wonder why your son would cut himself off from everyone in the family because of a quarrel with one sister, unless the rest of you took the sister’s side against him (or at least did not take his side against that sister) – or if you all keep trying to get him to make up with that sister.
Try writing him a letter explaining that you refuse to take anyone’s side in such a quarrel, but neither will you pressure him to make up with his sister, and expressing your regret at not seeing your grandchildren – and hope for the best.
