Dear Queenie,
A friend of mine from childhood now lives far away. When he visited here recently we got together and we even had sex. I always loved him as a friend but now I think there can be more than that. We keep in touch every day but I miss being together with him and that won’t happen for several months and the daily contact isn’t enough. He says he feels the same way.
Queenie, is there any hope for us?—Missing my friend
Dear Missing,
Yes, of course there is. In the more distant past, many couples who were separated for long times were able to keep their relationship going via mail. Nowadays there also are phone calls, email and other Internet apps that enable you to be in contact every day.
Meanwhile, until you can be together again, try to keep busy with other matters.
Dear Queenie,
My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years and our children are all grown up and out on their own.
Recently I found some panties with a sexy message printed on them. As far as I know she has never had anything like that before and I have never seen her wear them.
Queenie, should I be worried?—Surprised husband
Dear Husband,
If your wife does not wear those panties I see no reason for you to worry. Ask her where she got them. She may have thought they were cute, or they may have been a gift.
And, if she does not wear them, how did you happen to find them?
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I live with his parents and I help with the housework, but they complain if I don’t do the dishes too.
My boyfriend used to help me out financially, but he doesn’t do that any more, and I have to have his permission if I want to go anywhere or even just talk to someone in my family or a friend.
Queenie, what can I do?—Confused girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
Your boyfriend has made you completely dependent on him. This is a form of abuse.
There must be organisations in your community that can help you get away from him. Contact them for help and get away from him as soon as you can.
Dear Queenie,
My son’s girlfriend sent pictures of herself to my ex-wife’s husband, my son’s stepfather, and my son broke up with her because of it. Now my son doesn’t like being around his stepfather and it’s making things difficult between my son and his mother, who doesn’t think all this is very important.
Queenie, how can I make this situation better?—Worried father
Dear Father,
Does your son’s mother understand the reason her son broke up with his girlfriend? If not, someone should explain the situation to her and your son can arrange to see her alone, without her husband.
Dear Queenie,
One of my children has a lot of problems and my husband is away on his job a lot of the time so he cannot help me with her. I have asked him to try to be home more of the time, but his job won’t let it happen and he says he can’t find another job that would let him be more at home and still pay as well as this one.
We don’t have family here and we don’t have a lot of friends because of our child’s problems and I know we need my husband’s income, but we also need him here at home.
Queenie, what can I do?—Stressed-out wife
Dear Wife,
Is it possible for you to move closer to your family? If not, perhaps there is a support group in your community that could help. Your doctor and/or your daughter’s doctor probably could help you find the help you both need.
