Dear Queenie,
I just found out that my fiancé made a baby with another woman before we met. The way I found out was that she came knocking at our door demanding to see him.
Now she comes around whenever she feels like it and is very rude to me, and I found out she has been bad-mouthing me behind my back too.
Queenie, what should I do? Should I stick with him?—Harassed
Dear Harassed,
Why does this woman keep coming around? Is it just to harass you, or is it because your fiancé is not paying child support?
If it is the former, there are ways to deal with such a situation. A lawyer can advise you about your legal options.
However, if it is the latter, your fiancé should man up and pay her what is owed, and you will have to face the fact that this child (and to some extent the baby’s mother) will always be a part of his life. And if he does not pay up, you should think carefully about marrying a man who refuses to meet his obligations.
