Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I have been together for several years and we’re talking about getting married, but it bothers me that she wants an expensive engagement ring.
In the first place, I can hardly afford such an expensive ring. Also, it seems to me like I would be paying her to marry me unless she gets me a gift of equal value.
Queenie, what do you think about all this?—Ambivalent
Dear Ambivalent,
I think you should buy a ring you can afford and propose to your girlfriend. If she refuses to marry you because the ring is too small, you may be better off looking for someone who places more value on your feelings for her than on the size of her engagement ring.
