Dear Queenie,
My high school boyfriend left the island to go to university and stayed away for many years, but recently he came back here to live.
We’ve both been married and divorced but when we got together for a visit we both felt the same as when we were together in high school and we want to be together for the rest of our lives.
Queenie, could we have been in love with each other for all these years and not realized it?—Found true love at last
Dear True love,
Yes, it is quite possible. And this may be the reason your marriages did not last. I wish you the best in the years to come.
Dear Queenie,
My ex-boyfriend dumped me a long time ago, but said he wanted to stay friends with me and since then he has called me or texted me to check up on how I am doing and tell me he misses me, but never anything about getting back together.
Queenie, I don’t get it. If he really cares for me why did he break up with me and if he doesn’t care why does he keep in touch?—Confused
Dear Confused,
He may be regretting the breakup and hoping you will give him another chance. On the other hand, he may get an ego boost from thinking about how much you must be missing him, which seems more than a little sadistic to me.
If you are willing to take the gamble, ask him if he would like to get back together. If you are not, stop answering his calls/texts and start looking for a more considerate boyfriend.
Dear Queenie,
When we are eating at a restaurant is it okay to take pictures of the food and selfies of us eating it?—Restaurant Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
I suppose it depends on the kind of restaurant. It probably would not be a problem at a fast food place, but might be disruptive in a more formal setting. When in doubt, ask the hostess or maitre de, if there is one, or the wait-staff.
Dear Queenie,
I just found out my ex-husband gave my son his old car when he bought a new one. This was some time ago and my son never bothered to tell me about it. I only found out when he stopped by to see me and he was driving his “new” ride.
Queenie, is it wrong of me to be vexed that he didn’t tell me right away?—Mifted
Dear Mifted,
Obviously your son is old enough to be living on his own and therefore is not obligated to report every little (or not so little) event in his life to Mommy. He did not try to hide this from you, he just did not tell you the moment it happened. Calm down!
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I see each other several times a week for an hour or so and usually drive around for a while and then have sex in his car. We have talked about getting married but never get around to making definite plans.
Queenie, how long should I stick with him?—Lady-in-waiting
Dear Lady,
What do you really know about this guy besides the model of car he drives? You can wait “until the cows come home” but I doubt he will ever actually marry you. Why should he? He gets what he wants several times a week and all it costs him is gas money. He does not even have the courtesy (or maybe the wherewithal) to spring for a hotel room.
