Dear Queenie,
I’m planning on proposing marriage to my girlfriend and I’d like to make a real big spectacular occasion of it.
Got any good ideas, Queenie?—Would-be-fiancé
Dear Would-be-fiancé,
First, ask yourself how your girlfriend would respond to something big, spectacular – and presumably public. If she is basically a private person, she might not take your big, spectacular proposal the way you hope.
And ask yourself how you will take it if her (big, spectacular and presumably public) answer is “No.”
Dear Queenie,
My wife has a habit of saying insulting things to me and then when I say she hurt my feelings she says it was only a joke and I’m being too sensitive.
Queenie, what’s your take on this?—Offended husband
Dear Husband,
You are not being too sensitive. Your wife is being incredibly insensitive or even downright cruel.
You might consider professional counselling to learn to deal with this problem, and if you can persuade your wife to go with you hoping that the counsellor also will tell you you are being too sensitive, perhaps she will listen when a professional tells her her behaviour is unacceptable.
Dear Queenie,
My wife’s daughter invites us to dinner quite often, but she always – I mean always – serves foods that she knows I am allergic to. I think this is rude, or at least inconsiderate, because she knows what I am allergic to and there are plenty of other things she could serve that I could eat.
I think she is being rude and I should just stop going to her dinners. My wife says this would be rude. She says she will prepare food I can eat and we can take it along with us for me to eat while everyone else eats what is served.
Queenie, what do you think?—Hungry
Dear Hungry,
I think your stepdaughter is rude to ignore your allergies, but it also would not be polite of you to constantly refuse her invitations.
Your wife’s solution is an excellent idea. And if her daughter is offended by your bringing your own food, just tell her you are equally offended by the fact that she cannot manage to serve you food that you can safely eat.
Dear Queenie,
I have a lovely piece of jewellery my ex-boyfriend gave me for my birthday. I love to wear it, but now I’m going with someone else.
Queenie, would it be wrong to go on wearing it?—Gift Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
As long as there was no commitment attached to the gift, as with an engagement ring, I see no problem here. Wear it and enjoy doing so.
Dear Queenie,
When my grandmother died I posted on Facebook about how much I loved her and missed her and lots of people sent me condolences.
My Mom said it wasn’t right for people to find out about something like that on Facebook, but she put a death announcement ad in the newspaper.
Queenie, what’s the difference?—Grieving grandson
Dear Grandson,
As long as what you posted was not disrespectful in any way, I see no difference.
I am guessing your mother is not familiar with how social media work – or is too familiar with some of their less-attractive aspects.
