Dear Queenie,
My wife’s daughter invites us to dinner quite often, but she always – I mean always – serves foods that she knows I am allergic to. I think this is rude, or at least inconsiderate, because she knows what I am allergic to and there are plenty of other things she could serve that I could eat.
I think she is being rude and I should just stop going to her dinners. My wife says this would be rude. She says she will prepare food I can eat and we can take it along with us for me to eat while everyone else eats what is served.
Queenie, what do you think?—Hungry
Dear Hungry,
I think your stepdaughter is rude to ignore your allergies, but it also would not be polite of you to constantly refuse her invitations.
Your wife’s solution is an excellent idea. And if her daughter is offended by your bringing your own food, just tell her you are equally offended by the fact that she cannot manage to serve you food that you can safely eat.
