Dear Queenie,
I want my boyfriend that I met in college to meet my parents and he is planning to visit me in St. Maarten next summer.
He does not have any relatives here and he does not have a lot of money to spare and my parents have a guest bedroom so I thought he should stay at our house in the guest bedroom, but my father says it would not be proper for us to be staying in the same house.
Queenie, is my father right? He says he will abide by whatever you say is correct.—Visiting Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
I see nothing wrong with your boyfriend staying in a separate bedroom in the same house as you, as long as there is no sneaking around when everyone else is asleep.
If your father does not trust you and your boyfriend to abide by that rule, he could lock one of you up at night, which might be dangerous in case of a fire, or he could put a burglar alarm on your bedroom door or lock you into a chastity belt if he can find one – but all of these ideas seem rather extreme.
I really think your father should lighten up and show some confidence in your and your boyfriend’s sense of propriety.
