Dear Queenie,
I’ve been dating a girl for several months and now she is pushing me for us to move in together, but I’m just not interested in a closer relationship. In fact, I’m ready to break up with her completely, but when I even start to talk about not seeing each other, or at least dating other people too she gets all upset and starts talking all sorts of foolishness.
Queenie, how do I get her to let go of me?—Trapped
Dear Trapped,
It is not going to be easy, and you cannot do it by “letting her down easy,” so be prepared for an emotional outburst (or two or three or more!). The old line “It’s not you, it’s me” applies here, for whatever good it will do you.
You will have to tell her the truth, as often as necessary until she gets the message. And be prepared with lots of patience – and Kleenex.
