Dear Queenie,
My husband was the first man who asked me to marry him and I said “yes” because I was afraid he might be the only who ever wanted to marry me, but I wasn’t really in love with him. I hoped I would come to love him after we were married but it just didn’t happen. I love him like a brother, but that’s all.
We’ve been married for more than 20 years and our children are all grown up and out on their own and here I am stuck in a safe but boring marriage. I am just about ready to get divorced so I can look for someone I really love like a wife should love her husband, but what if I can’t find anyone like that?
Queenie, what should I do?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
It is possible you could find the exciting romantic love you fantasise about, but it is even more likely that you would not, and even if you did, that kind of romance tends not to last very long.
Ann Landers used to advise asking yourself whether you are better off with him or without him and I am passing her advice along to you, as you are the only one who can answer that question.
