Dear Queenie,
I have been bisexual for 10 years now and maybe more and I’m 21 but my family doesn’t know about and might not even approve (old school and Christian). I’ve been with men and women.
I am in a relationship with a woman again and she’s madly in love with me and I’m with her.
My youngest sister is most important to me and we are really close and she never knew about that part of my life.
Queenie, how can I tell my youngest sister and my family about all this, because we are getting really serious?—M.B.
Dear M.B.,
Sooner or later your family, including your youngest sister, will find out about “all this.” It probably will not be easy for them to take, but it will be less difficult for them if it comes straight from you. However, you do not want to drop the news on them like a bombshell.
A little research on the Internet might help you. There are websites for LGBT persons that specifically help with dilemmas like yours.
You do not say how old your youngest sister is. If she is in her teens you can tell her along with, or at least in the same way as, the rest of your family. However, if she is younger than that you will have to find an age-appropriate way of talking to her about it. Perhaps once your parents know, they can help you tell her. They also may want to have some input into when you tell her.
