Dear Queenie,
I don’t like to go to funerals. I prefer to remember people the way they were alive, not lying in a coffin ready to be cremated or buried in the ground, and once they’re dead they don’t care whether you are there or not.
My husband says this is disrespectful and I should go, if only to keep up appearances.
Queenie, what do you say?—Faithful reader
Dear Faithful,
Thank you for your compliment about my column.
As for your question, I think you should go. Funerals are not so much for the benefit of the deceased as for the ones they left behind and your presence could be a comfort to them and help them get through a difficult time.
