Dear Queenie,
My wife died some time ago and there’s this woman I had an affair with a long time ago whose husband is now in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. She stayed with him to try to make up for the affair and I’ve been told she goes to visit him every day even though he doesn’t even recognise her anymore.
Queenie, would it be okay for me to get in touch with her? Maybe send her a sympathy card? I still have feelings for her and maybe she feels the same about me.—Lonely widower
Dear Lonely widower,
Apparently your old flame is still in love with her husband and still trying to make amends for cheating on him so long ago. It would be okay to send a sympathy card, but not to take things any further. You will know from her response, if any, how she feels about you.
