Dear Queenie,
My husband insists he wants us to have children, but I'm not sure sure I do. I'm not that interested in children and I don't think he really is either. I have noticed that when children are around he just ignores them or goes somewhere else. He says it would be different if they were his own, but I'm not so sure.
I think he just wants to prove how much of a man he is by getting me pregnant, but then I'm the one who will have to carry the baby for 9 months with all the problems of pregnancy, and then go through all the hassle of caring for a new baby and then a toddler and eventually coping with a teenager.
Queenie, will I change my mind once I get pregnant, like he says? And will he be different with his own children?—Doubtful
Dear Doubtful,
It is possible you will change your mind and he will change his ways, but you should not count on it. If you are not absolutely certain about all this, do yourself and them a favour and do not bring unwanted children into the world.
Professional counselling might help both of you sort out your feelings. And in this case I recommend you insist your husband go with you. Tell him there is not a snowball's chance in hell of your getting pregnant unless he does (and maybe not even then, but do not tell him that).
