Dear Queenie,
Our daughter is vexed with us because we have become good friends with her husband’s parents. The two families get together on holidays and special family occasions.
Queenie, are we doing something wrong?—Confused parents
Dear Confused,
This is just the opposite of the usual in-law problem.
It could be that your son-in-law is not as close to his parents as your daughter is to you, or that she is suffering some kind of friction with them. Or it may be that they would like to have some “alone time” with each set of parents without the other set present.
There is no reason you should stop being friends with your daughter’s in-laws, but it would be a good idea – and possibly instructive – for each set of parents to see the children occasionally without the other set of parents.
