Dear Queenie,
I am a married professional woman that never had children for several very good personal reasons. My husband has no problem with this, but other people I meet are always asking me about my children and when I say I don’t have any they want to know why and sometimes they even start getting on about how much I am missing and I shouldn’t wait until I am too old, etc., etc.
Queenie, how do I answer them without being rude?—Offended
Dear Offended,
It depends on just how polite you want to be. Of course, you do not want to be rude to people you meet in the course of your work, but social contacts could be another matter.
Your response could range from “I have a medical condition” to “Ít’s a personal matter that I prefer not to discuss” to “What business is it of yours?”
Dear Queenie,
My husband likes to sneak up on me when I’m not looking. He thinks it’s funny to surprise me. I’ve told him I don’t like it, but he won’t stop.
Queenie, what do you suggest?—Startled wife
Dear Startled,
I suggest you keep some sharp object – a large nail file, or a cooking fork or even a carving knife, for example – in your hand at all times when he is likely to sneak up on you. Seeing that you are prepared for his surprises may dissuade him from sneaking up on you. And if he still does so and you are so startled that you reflexively happen to stab him with said sharp object, especially in some very sensitive spot, it may forcibly teach him to be more considerate.
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months now and to be honest I know what love feels like and let me be honest I am not in love. I try my best to break up with him but it just can’t come out of my mouth.
I don’t like people’s response. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to disappoint, but what should I do? And I know he doesn’t love me also, but pretending to shake my head, why?
Queenie, what should I do? Why do I feel like this?—Confusion
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend just broke up with me. He always said I was the best thing that ever happened to him, but now that he’s getting divorced he says it’s not a good idea for him to have a byside right now, but we can get back together later on after the divorce is final.
Everyone I know says he’s just using me as insurance so he can play around but still have someone waiting just in case.
Queenie, is he just playing games with me or should I wait for him to settle down?—Left wondering
