Dear Queenie,
A while ago I bought myself a house and since then my boyfriend started staying over a lot, in fact he’s practically living here. He still has his own place, but he stopped paying his water and electricity bills so they turned them off and he’s saving a lot of money.
He comes and goes when he pleases and although he buys his own beer and sometimes a few groceries, mostly I do all the shopping and the housework which he doesn’t help with.
Queenie, how do I tell him I expect him to pitch in without spoiling our relationship?—Exasperated
Dear Exasperated,
Frankly, the way you describe it, this guy is a freeloading jerk who expects you to more or less support him and to wait on him hand and foot.
Maybe he thinks this is the way you want things to be. How do you expect him to know how you feel if you do not tell him straight out? He is not a mind-reader, you know.
If you tell him how you feel about all this – calmly, without the anger you obviously are holding in – maybe he will shape up.
On the other hand, if it spoils your relationship with him you are better off without him.
