Etty Ket

Dear Queenie,

  My fiancé and I are getting married after living together for 5 years. We already have a home with all the furniture and appliances we need and we really don’t want any more things to just take up space.

  Queenie, when we send out our wedding invitations is it okay to ask people not to give us things for wedding presents, but money we could use for our honeymoon or put away for future needs?—Etty Ket


Dear Etty Ket,

  No, it is not okay to ask for money. You can say, “No gift, please” and leave it up to the recipient whether and how to honour that request, or you can ask that instead of a gift they make a donation in your name to your favourite charity, but that is as far as you can go.