Dear Queenie,
I’m not a “party person.” I don’t like large gatherings of people I don’t know very well where there’s a lot of drinking and loud music and such. I prefer to go out once in a while with one or two friends to a quiet restaurant where we can have a nice conversation without having to shout at each other. The rest of the time I’d rather be by myself, read a book or watch TV.
My sister says this makes me antisocial.
Queenie, is she right?—Introvert
Dear Introvert,
Some people just prefer peace and quiet to the party scene and apparently you are such a person. That does not mean you are antisocial. Your sister is way off-base.
Dear Queenie,
My husband is planning to go to his college class reunion, but he says I’m not invited and he’s going to stay with some old college buddies. Kind of a “boys only” weekend. I just can’t help wondering what that means.
Queenie, what do you think it means?—Suspicious wife
Dear Suspicious,
I suspect it means your husband is looking forward to reliving his “frat party” days and, depending on how long ago they were, may well regret it afterward.
If this is the only reason you have to be suspicious of your husband I suggest you simply plan a “girls weekend” with some friends and enjoy every minute of your husband’s absence.
Dear Queenie,
I just recently start working at my first job. The boss and a bunch of my co-workers have the habit of going out for drinks after work and sometimes I go with them.
One time I had too much to drink and got too drunk to drive home, so my boss took me home and when we got there he tried to put the moves on me. I refused him and he stopped and the next day he asked me not to quit, but he never actually apologised for what he did.
Queenie, should I say something to him or just let it go?—Molested employee
Dear Molested,
Your boss stopped when you refused his advances and the fact that he asked you not to quit shows he knows what he did was wrong.
Forget about this incident and if you go out with your co-workers again make sure you stay sober. Do not drink any alcohol at all if that is what it takes for you not to get drunk.
Dear Queenie,
My wife was pregnant with another man’s child when we got married but when the baby was born she put my name on the birth certificate. I have accepted her daughter as my own and we never told her any different.
Dear Queenie,
My husband and I live quite some distance from both of our families. Our problem is that they complain that we don’t come home to visit them often enough.
We visit them for Christmas and Easter and one or two more times every year, but that uses up most of our vacation time, not to mention the expense. On the other hand, they almost never come here to visit us, it’s always us that have to go to see them.
Queenie, should we be doing more?—Feeling guilty
Dear Feeling guilty,
Lose the guilt. You are doing more than your fair share of the visiting. Any time your families complain, tell them it is their turn to come to visit you and you will be happy to see them when (if) they do so.
