Dear Queenie,
I always thought I had the perfect husband. But recently when he was sick in the hospital I overheard him talking to a prostitute that he has been seeing all along.
Queenie, what should I do” And should I tell our children, who are all adults?—Devastated
Dear Queenie,
I recently moved into an apartment in what I thought was a quiet neighbourhood, but it turns out that some of the neighbours have dogs that bark at strangers and others tend to do yard work with noisy machines at odd hours.
Queenie, how can I get out of my lease?—Craving peace and quiet
Dear Queenie,
When I was in high school I was molested by a friend of my parents who was visiting. I told my family and they confronted him and he admitted it and said he was sorry and they forgave him.
My problem is they are still friends with him even though I can’t stand to be around him.
Queenie, how can they treat me this way, as if what he did to me doesn’t matter to them at all?—Betrayed by family
Dear Queenie,
My husband and I always talked about having children. He always said we should have them right away because he is so much older than I am. But I had some problems getting pregnant and now he says he has changed his mind and doesn’t want children after all.
When I got upset about this he said he would be dead soon enough and then I could find someone younger and have children with him.
Queenie, what do you make of this? Was he lying to me all along?—Childless in SXM
Dear Childless,
It could be that he was lying to you about having children, and if that is the case you have some serious thinking to do. Counselling might help you sort out your (and his) feelings on the subject.
However, I have to wonder what he meant about being “dead soon enough.” Does he have some medical problem that he has not told you about? This is something that needs to be sorted out before you even consider getting pregnant, lest you find yourself coping with an invalid husband and an infant at the same time.
