Dear Queenie,
I just found out my ex-husband gave my son his old car when he bought a new one. This was some time ago and my son never bothered to tell me about it. I only found out when he stopped by to see me and he was driving his “new” ride.
Queenie, is it wrong of me to be vexed that he didn’t tell me right away?—Mifted
Dear Mifted,
Obviously your son is old enough to be living on his own and therefore is not obligated to report every little (or not so little) event in his life to Mommy. He did not try to hide this from you, he just did not tell you the moment it happened. Calm down!
Dear Queenie,
When we are eating at a restaurant is it okay to take pictures of the food and selfies of us eating it?—Restaurant Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
I suppose it depends on the kind of restaurant. It probably would not be a problem at a fast food place, but might be disruptive in a more formal setting. When in doubt, ask the hostess or maitre de, if there is one, or the wait-staff.
Dear Queenie,
Recently a man I used to be in love with came back to live here. We both got married and then divorced in the meantime and we are both now in committed relationships, but we get together now and then just to visit and keep each other up to date.
Queenie, is this okay or should we not take a chance on being tempted to go further?—Still in love with him
Dear Still in love,
Getting together behind your spouses’/partners’ backs is not a good idea. Instead, why don’t all four of you do things together in a more normal foursome friendship rather than just you and him in a romantic twosome atmosphere?
Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I see each other several times a week for an hour or so and usually drive around for a while and then have sex in his car. We have talked about getting married but never get around to making definite plans.
Queenie, how long should I stick with him?—Lady-in-waiting
Dear Lady,
What do you really know about this guy besides the model of car he drives? You can wait “until the cows come home” but I doubt he will ever actually marry you. Why should he? He gets what he wants several times a week and all it costs him is gas money. He does not even have the courtesy (or maybe the wherewithal) to spring for a hotel room.
Dear Queenie,
Recently my boyfriend and I broke up after seeing each other for a couple of years. There was no big fight or anything like that, we just kind of drifted apart and stopped seeing each other.
My problem is that there are a lot of things in my apartment that remind me of him – pictures, things of his that he left here and little gifts he gave me, and I don’t know what to do with them.
Queenie, what do you suggest?—Ex-girlfriend
Dear Ex,
The things he gave you are yours to do with as you please – keep them, throw them out or give them to a charitable organisation if they can be of use to someone else.
The things of his that he left behind are another matter. Pack them up or toss them in a box and ask him if he wants them back. If he does, give him a deadline to pick them up. If he has not taken them away by the deadline, feel free to do with them as you have done with his gifts – keep them, throw them out or give them to a charitable organisation if they can be of use to someone else.
