Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend is getting so fat I can hardly look at him. I try to give him healthy food but he goes behind my back and buys all sorts of junk food and snacks. I tried to get him to go to a gym or even just take a walk for exercise but he gets tired so easily so he quit even trying.
It’s not just how he looks, I’m worried about his health.
Queenie, what more can I do?—Fatty’s girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
Try to get your boyfriend to go to his family doctor for a check-up. There may be a medical or psychological reason for his weight gain and, if so, the doctor can tell him what it is and how to control it – if he follows the doctor’s instructions – or refer him to another professional who can help him – again, if he cooperates.
Other than that, you can either accept things the way they are or end the relationship. You cannot force your boyfriend to take care of himself properly. And, just possibly, the prospect of losing you will motivate him to do better, although it might also send him into a psychological tailspin that only makes things worse.
