Dear Queenie,

  My husband and I have been together since high school. He cheated on me several times while we were dating and even while we were engaged. Now I found out he has even cheated on me since we got married.

  He keep promising it won’t happen again, but it always does.

  Queenie, does a cheater ever stop cheating?—Fed-up wife

Dear Wife,

  Maybe when women no longer find him attractive and/or when he becomes unable to “perform” – if then, because he may go on trying.

Dear Queenie,

  Last time I was at the Government Building a man who was walking ahead of me stepped aside and motioned for me to go first through the door, so I ended up ahead of him in the Receiver’s line.

  It doesn’t seem fair that he should have to wait longer because he was so polite.

  Queenie, what do you think?—Chivalry Etty Ket

Dear Etty Ket,

  I think you could have offered to let the gentleman go ahead of you in the Receiver’s line, but even if you did, he might not have accepted your offer.

  Am I being cynical for thinking that if you are an attractive young (or even no-so-young) woman he might have been enjoying the view from behind you?

Dear Queenie,

  There is a group of us who meet for dinner once a week. My boyfriend got friendly with one of the other women in the group and she started making flirty jokes with him and he started answering the same way.

  I knew nothing was really going on between them, because they would refer to something that happened when him and me were together, like “last night was just wonderful!” when he had been with me the whole night.

  However, I got sick of this joking and after a couple of weeks I told my boyfriend how rude I thought it was and if I heard any of it again I would be done with him. He acted surprised and said nothing was happening between them and he would stop, He apologised said if I had said something to him sooner he would have stopped then.

  Queenie, was I wrong to speak my mind?—Offended girlfriend

Dear Girlfriend,

  You were not wrong to find this rude, to be offended by it and to speak up.

  However, you should have spoken up the first time it happened instead of letting it fester until you were so angry you would threaten to break up with your boyfriend.

  He has said nothing but joking happened, which you knew anyway, has apologised for offending you with the joking and said he would stop it, so forgive him, as long as the offensive joking stops.

Dear Queenie,

  A very good friend of mine has been arrested for a very serious crime, one I strongly disapprove of. He never said anything about it to me, but as far as I know he is not claiming to be innocent either.

  I know friends should stick to friends, but like I said, I strongly disapprove of what he is accused of, plus being associated to him could cause me serious problems at my job and socially.

  Queenie, what should I do?—Worried friend

Dear Friend,

  All you can do is wait and see how this mess turns out. Even if your friend is found not guilty at trial, there may be some doubt, depending on the reasons for the verdict. Remember, there is a difference between “we do not have enough evidence to prove him guilty” and “there is proof that he is innocent.”

  Until then, and maybe even afterward, sorry to say, it would be best to keep your distance from your friend.