Dear Queenie,
There is a group of us who meet for dinner once a week. My boyfriend got friendly with one of the other women in the group and she started making flirty jokes with him and he started answering the same way.
I knew nothing was really going on between them, because they would refer to something that happened when him and me were together, like “last night was just wonderful!” when he had been with me the whole night.
However, I got sick of this joking and after a couple of weeks I told my boyfriend how rude I thought it was and if I heard any of it again I would be done with him. He acted surprised and said nothing was happening between them and he would stop, He apologised said if I had said something to him sooner he would have stopped then.
Queenie, was I wrong to speak my mind?—Offended girlfriend
Dear Girlfriend,
You were not wrong to find this rude, to be offended by it and to speak up.
However, you should have spoken up the first time it happened instead of letting it fester until you were so angry you would threaten to break up with your boyfriend.
He has said nothing but joking happened, which you knew anyway, has apologised for offending you with the joking and said he would stop it, so forgive him, as long as the offensive joking stops.
