Dear Queenie,
I have a friend who is always complaining about her appearance – she’s too fat, she’s too short, her hair is a mess, whatever.
Queenie, what’s the best way to respond to such remarks?—Worried friend
Dear Friend,
There is no point in lying about such things. If your friend really is overweight, for example, her mirror is telling her the truth and nothing you say can change it.
However, surely there is something else about her that you can compliment – she has good posture, her hair is a lovely colour, she has a beautiful complexion, she dresses well, whatever.