Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend is very good to me, but he has very little education and can only get low-salary jobs and now he been out of work for several months. He says he is looking for work, but he always seems to have an excuse for “not today”.
I am going to college and raising our son and I have a fairly good job that pays enough to support us, but it’s a real drag and I don’t see it getting any better any time soon.
Queenie, the only reason I stay with him is because I love him and I don’t think I could make it as a single mother alone.—Worn out
Dear Worn out,
You are a single mother supporting not one child but two – your son and your boyfriend.
Your boyfriend has no real motivation to look for work or to work at getting more education so he could find better jobs. Why should he, when Mommy (you) is willing to take care of him?
Give him an ultimatum: start helping out financially or get out and relieve you of at least part of your burden – and give you a chance to find a man who will give you something more than additional expenses.
