Dear Queenie,
Some time ago a friend of mine was having money troubles and I lent him a good amount of money. Up to now he has never even tried to pay me back.
Now he is planning what looks to be a very expensive wedding on another island and I am invited, but I don’t plan to go, especially now after the hurricanes.
Queenie, would it be okay to send him a note writing off the loan instead of a wedding gift?—Wedding Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
Because you are not going to attend the wedding you are not obligated to give the happy couple a gift. Send them a card or note of congratulations and forget about the loan.
