Dear Queenie,
My 26-year-old son is dating a girl who has much less education than anyone in our family. She is working as a waitress to pay her college tuition but even then she will be under-educated, according to my husband, and won’t have many prospects for a well-paying career.
I think she is very nice and I can see how much she loves our son and I think she will make him a good wife, but my husband thinks she is totally unsuitable and that we should try to get him to break up with her and find someone better.
Queenie, what do you say?—Concerned mother
Dear Mother,
From your description your son’s girlfriend is ambitious enough to work her way through college and very much in love with your adult son. This decision is up to him and if you bad-mouth his choice in any way you will only turn him away from you and towards her. Tell your snobby husband to hold his peace or risk losing his son.
