Dear Queenie,
My husband and I left a wedding reception before they served the dinner, because the band was playing its music so loud we couldn’t hear ourselves talk, so couldn’t make conversation with other guests and it gave me a headache.
Now the hosts are mad at us because they had to pay for our dinner anyway.
Queenie, were we rude, or were they for making it so unpleasant for their guests?—Wedding Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
It would have been more polite of you if, before you left, you had told the hosts about your discomfort and asked them to tell the band to lower the volume.
If they had obliged, you could have stayed and enjoyed the occasion. On the other hand, if they had ignored your request, they would have had no complaint about your leaving.
