Dear Queenie,
As a young teenager I was abused sexually by my stepdad for a couple of years until I got the courage to report him. He was never charged because of lack of evidence and family did not want to come forward because they did not believe me.
So now, years later, as an adult I’ve decided to try to put it behind me so that I can still have a relationship with my family, but lately it’s been too much seeing everyone act like nothing happened and him still being around.
I am planning to move away to get away from that environment but I’m wondering if it still won’t affect me. Or should I confront my family and how would I go about that?
Queenie, please give me your honest opinion. Dealing with this in the past had made me turn to drugs and alcohol. I just need a fresh start.—Victim of abuse
Dear Victim,
You need more professional help than I am qualified to give. However, help is available to you from Safe Haven, even at this late date, and I hope you will take advantage of it. Safe Haven’s contact information is:
24-hour hotline number 9333 or (721) 523-6400.
E-mail address: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
Facebook: SafeHavenSt.Maarten
I’m sure you also will be able to find help in your new surroundings. Safe Haven may be able to give you a referral, or once you get there you can search for it online.
Also, if there are other children in your family who might be in danger from your abuser, it would be a good idea to take steps to protect them. Again, Safe Haven can advise you how best to go about doing so.
