Dear Queenie,
My husband and I are getting divorced, but it’s complicated because of custody of the children and financial issues like dividing up our property and child support, etc. We’re getting through that alright, that’s not my problem.
Queenie, what I need to know is when it’s okay for me to start dating again and what to do when a man flirts with me at a bar or a social event. Should I tell him right up front or wait until we’ve been dating for la while?—Not divorced yet
Dear Not yet,
As long as you are still married and child custody is an issue it is not a good idea for you to be hanging out at bars. Social events are another matter.
It would be a good idea to let a potential date know your marital status up front, especially if your about-to-be ex-husband is likely to be vindictive about it.
As for when it is okay to start dating again, ask your lawyer and follow his (or her) advice.
