Dear Queenie,
I’m still in high school but I’m pregnant. My mother doesn’t want me to have anything more to do with the baby’s father because she thinks he treated me badly and she’s afraid he will do the same to the baby. She also thinks he will just walk out on me sooner or later, because he is also in high school and probably will be going away to college.
She also doesn’t want me to have anything to do with his parents because that will keep me in touch with him.
Queenie, is she right?—Teenage mother
Dear Teenager,
When you say your baby’s father treated you badly, do you mean he abused you, either physically or emotionally? If so, your mother is right to keep you away from him and as your baby’s mother it will be up to you to protect your child.
As for your baby-daddy’s parents, whether you let them see their grandchild depends on how they treat you and the baby. If they are abusive like their son, keep away from them, but if they treat you and the baby well visit them, or let them visit you, under circumstances that do not include their son.
