Dear Queenie,
My big brother used to molest me when I was little. When my parents finally found out they tried to defend him and insisted that now he is grown up he will never do anything like that again.
Now he is married and I am afraid if they have children he will molest them like he did me. My parents don’t want me to say anything to his wife for fear of breaking up their marriage.
Queenie, what should I do?—Brother’s victim
Dear Victim,
By all means tell your sister-in-law before they have children. She should know what kind of protection her children will require. And perhaps fear of losing his wife will persuade your brother to get professional counselling to try to overcome, or at least learn to control, his base impulses.
