Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. Things were just great at first but now they're not.
He has this thing about sports. He has to watch his favourite teams every time they play and I'm not supposed to interrupt him because he might miss something, like some player scratching his crotch or spitting on the field or whatever.
There are so many games he doesn't have any time left over for me. It's almost as bad as if he had another woman.
Queenie, how can I get him to understand how this affects our relationship?—Sports widow
Dear Sports widow,
Apparently your boyfriend has become so accustomed to having you around that he has started taking you for granted. You could try smashing the TV set or cutting off the cable TV, but he'd probably just go out to a sports bar or casino to watch and you'd still be left alone, without even a TV for company.
If you can find a time when he isn't glued to a game, try to talk to him about this. If that doesn't work, tell him you want to take a break from the relationship and kick him out (or leave, if you're living in his house or apartment).
Then, if your absence from his life doesn't bring him to his senses, consider yourself lucky to be rid of him and start looking for someone who shares your interests and considers you more important than anything else in his life.
