Dear Queenie,
I am in love with the minister of my church and I’m sure he feels the same way, even though he has never indicated such to me.
Queenie, how can I get him to admit how he feels?—Romantic parishioner
Dear Romantic parishioner,
It is not uncommon for women to be romantically attracted to their pastors. However, it would be completely unethical for a pastor to become romantically involved with a member of his congregation. And, of course, if either one of you is married, “Thou shalt not commit adultery!”
If he were to have a romantic relationship with you while you were a member of his congregation, I would have serious doubts about his integrity and would advise you not to trust him.
If you are really serious about him, join another church. Then explain to him why you have left his congregation and invite him to dinner. But don’t be too disappointed if it turns out that he is not interested. Pastors are accustomed to dealing with women with crushes.
