Dear Queenie,
I work as a waitress in a nice restaurant and I’m really getting fed up with some of the customers. A lot of the men like to flirt and that’s no problem, but some of them get really obscene with some of the suggestions they make and I’m getting awfully tired of having to be polite to them.
One old man (I mean, like in his 60s) keeps coming on to this young girl who works here and he won’t take no for an answer. He even waited for her after work one night, even though she kept saying no to him. He pretended like he thought she was only saying no because the boss was looking at her inside the place.
Queenie, what’s wrong with these old guys? What makes them think a young girl would be interested in them anyway?—Disgusted
Dear Disgusted,
No man likes to admit he is getting old, but it takes a real dreamer, or a pervert, to believe that a teenager would go for a man three times her age.
Next time he hits on her, she should tell him he reminds her of her grandfather, except her grandfather is more polite and considerate. She should also ask the boss to escort her to her transportation home, or ask a male family member or her boyfriend to pick her up after work to take her home.
A thought: Does your boss make you wear skimpy uniforms? If so, they may be part of the source of your problem. Discuss the problem with him. I know waitresses get more tips if they dress provocatively, but there should be a limit.
