Dear Queenie,
I have a husband and family and also work full-time. My problem is that I never have any time to myself. Once in a while I would like to just take a walk by myself, or even just sit and watch TV alone or go to a movie, but my husband makes me feel guilty for even wanting it, let alone doing it.
Queenie, how do I make him understand?—Overwhelmed
Dear Overwhelmed,
Does your husband spend every waking minute at his job or at home with you and the children? If not, tell him it is the same for you. It may be that he is suspicious of your motives or jealous of time spent away from him, so be sure to let him know what you will be doing where, when and for how long.
However, if that is not the case, you may have trouble making him understand your need for “alone time.” Perhaps your family doctor or even a professional counsellor could explain it to him better than you can.
