Dear Queenie,
When my daughter died I loaned her husband the money for her funeral because he was short on funds and the insurance money wouldn’t come in for a while. He promised to pay me back, but he never did.
Now he wants to borrow money to buy computers for their children, my grandchildren. I don’t want to, because he still owes me for the funeral.
Queenie, what do you think?—Grandma moneybags
Dear Grandma,
Give him the money if you can afford it. It may be the price (bribe!) you have to pay for staying in touch with your grandchildren. But make it clear that the computers will belong to the children, not to him, and make sure they are registered in the children’s names (or yours, if the children are still very young).
