Dear Queenie,
When my niece got married we asked her mother what would be a good wedding gift and she said “money” so we sent a generous check.
However, we never received a thank-you note and according to our bank the check was never cashed, so we asked her mother whether she had received it. Her mother said “yes,” but the bride was embarrassed to receive such a large amount and refused to cash the check.
Queenie, shouldn’t the bride have thanked us anyway?—Offended aunt
Dear Offended,
Of course. If she did not want to accept the gift, the bride at least should have thanked you for your kind thought and returned the cheque to you with an explanation as to why she felt she could not accept it.
And just for the record, I have heard complaints from recipients about stingy (too small) gifts, but never that a gift was too generous. This is really one for the books!
