Dear Queenie,
How can I know whether I am really good-looking? My friends say I would be if I would dress better and use makeup like they do and if I did I wouldn’t have any trouble attracting men. But I just don’t feel like that would jibe with the kind of person I am.
I have a good sense of humour, I’m good at conversation and I have lots of friends, but I don’t like to dress like a hussy and flirt just to get a man interested in me.
And, Queenie, why does it really matter if I am not what men think is gorgeous?—Not beautiful
Dear Not beautiful,
I suspect you are much better-looking than you think, but you downplay your looks to protect yourself from feeling rejected. There is that old saying, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” but you have to give the beholder something that will catch his eye to begin with.
If you behave as though you believe you are attractive – and that means dressing the part as well as acting it – men will give you a second glance and you will have a chance to pick and choose the one(s) who also see your inner beauty.
