Dear Queenie,
My mother died a few years ago after my parents had been married for more than 30 years.
A while ago my father started dating again and he has met a woman he intends to marry. I consider this a betrayal of his relationship with my mother and I just can’t accept it.
Queenie, it is wrong of me to feel this way?—Miss my Mom
Dear Miss,
Yes.
Marriage vows are “until death do us part,” meaning the commitment ends with the death of one of the spouses.
That does not mean you should forget about your mother, or that your father has, but you have to accept the fact that life goes on for those left behind.
It is not fair to your father to expect him to spend the rest of his life alone and in mourning for your mother. Instead, try to be happy for him that he has found happiness and companionship again.
