Dear Queenie,
I am still friends with a man I dated for a while a few years ago. Our relationship just didn’t work out, but after we broke up we still stayed friends.
Now I am dating another man, but he doesn’t like it that I am still friends with my former boyfriend and he wants me to stop seeing my ex or even talking to him altogether.
Queenie, what is the right thing to do?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
I can understand that your new boyfriend does not like for you to have anything to do with a former boyfriend, but he should not try to dictate what friends you can have.
Tell the new guy you will not be seeing the ex as often as before, and assure the new guy that you do not talk to the ex about your new relationship or any problems you may be having in it. And if that does not settle the matter, ask yourself whether the new guy may be trying to control you a little too much.
On the other hand, if you still have any stronger feelings for the ex than just friendship, then yes, you should stop seeing him altogether.
