Dear Queenie,
I go to college in the United States, but my mother treats me as if I am still a child living at home. She calls me every night and if I’m not in by what she thinks should be my bedtime she keeps calling until I get home and then she quizzes me on where I was and who I was with and what we were doing.
She tells me what to eat and what classes to take and what clubs I should or shouldn’t join and what sports I should go out for.
Queenie, I know she works hard to pay for my education, but isn’t part of that education learning to make my own decisions?—Mama’s little boy
Dear Mama’s little boy,
To a mother, her son is always her little boy, even when he has children of his own. Your mother is obviously having trouble cutting the apron strings and you don’t seem to be struggling too hard to grow up.
For instance, if you are old enough to go to college, you are old enough to hold a part-time job to help pay for your education and living expenses. So why does your mother have to work so very hard?
For both your sakes, start learning to stand on your own two feet without Mommy’s help and financial support. After all, she won’t be there forever to support you and take care of you. Moreover, if you ever intend to get married, you will find that most women won’t put up with a dependent little boy for a husband.
Besides, if you are contributing to your own upkeep, you will have a better argument for having some say in the decisions about classes, sports, etc.
