Dear Queenie,
My son and his new wife don’t want me to have anything to do with his first wife now that they are divorced, but she has custody of their children and if I don’t have anything to do with her I don’t get to see my grandchildren.
Queenie, what should I do?—Lonely grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
Your son and his new wife have no right to dictate whom you may or may not have contact with. More especially they have no right to cut you off from your grandchildren – and your grandchildren from you.
And I have to wonder, does your son have no contact with his children? Perhaps when (if) he sees them he could bring them to visit you. If that never happens, by all means arrange to stay in touch with the children, but on occasions when your son and his new wife will not be involved.
