Dear Queenie,
I find it unfair the way girls treat themselves, act and are treated by males. Most girls feel they have to live up to the standards of being “Flirty,” a “Diva” or any of the many labels/tags given to any teenager.
Sure, if that’s really who they are, by all means go ahead, but it doesn’t really go like that during this generation. Females wear short skirts, skimpy tops, etc., etc., just to appeal to guys.
Many of my friends who are just as pretty as the next girl wear clothes that don’t reflect their inner selves. Other than these labels/tags, teens believe they are cooler when they call themselves or others words with profanity or curse words, such as b----.
Males have a hand in this too. Guys talking about how girls look is just fine, but when it comes to them asking for a “hot chick” or “babes” it really pushes a female to want to achieve the standards guys are looking for.
Queenie, why must teens (and adults) change themselves just to be liked or have people accept them?—Female without a label
Dear Female without a label,
They don’t have to do this.
However, most teens and many adults are so uncertain about who they are and what kind of person they want to be that they frantically try to be and do what they think other people expect of them, instead of having the self-confidence to say to themselves and the rest of the world, “This is who and what I am. If you can’t accept me as I am, that’s your problem and your loss.”
Also, many teens, both girls and boys, will experiment with a number of styles and standards before they find out what suits them best.
As for the profanity and curse words, many well-brought-up children think it makes them seem more grown up to use “grown-up” language. And, sad to say, all too many children these days have been set a bad example by their elders and do not understand that using such language only makes them seem ignorant and boorish, not “grown up” at all.
