Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I know several other couples and we often get together for coffee or a drink after work. They often make plans for outings or get-togethers right in front of us, but my boyfriend and I are never included in these conversations or asked to join them.
Queenie, is it just me, or are they being rude? And do you think I should say something to them about it?—Offended
Dear Offended,
No, it’s not just you; they are being extremely rude! But I wouldn’t bother to say anything to them. Just stop socialising with them. Don’t stop anywhere with them after work and find someone else with whom to hang out.
If any of these insensitive clods say anything to you about your change of habits, then you can tell them – not rudely – how offended you were by their behaviour. But don’t expect them to be apologetic. Rude people seldom are. They are more likely to try to put the blame on you, for being “too sensitive.” Don’t let them get away with it.
