Dear Queenie,
I was with this guy for a year and some months. I love him a lot and I know he has feelings for me. During our relationship I found out that he had gotten his ex- girlfriend pregnant. I didn’t know what to do. All I could do was just cry and cry.
When our relationship ended I couldn’t seem to trust any man again. Any guy that asks me to go out, I turn them down even though they’re the good ones.
There is this guy I like and I know he likes me too because he has been troubling me almost my whole life and keeps saying that he really likes me. I really like him and I know that he would not do anything bad, because I have been hearing that he is not that type of a person.
I want to tell him “yes,” but I still don’t have any trust in any guy after my recent relationship. But I really don’t want to disappoint him. I really want a future with this guy.
Queenie, what should I do?—Confused girl
Dear Confused girl,
Level with him. Tell him you are still getting over a bad relationship and are not ready to get serious about anyone yet, but if he is willing to accept those terms you would like to go out with him. Give him a chance to persuade you that he is not like that other guy.
You can go out with a guy without getting serious about him, you know. And when you are ready, when you have recovered from your previous disappointment, you won’t have to ask me what you should do. You will know.
